If you’re feeling miserable right now, because you’re just sitting at home or in the office, instead of chilling in the Jacuzzi with 3 cuties, chopping your way through the thick rainforest in order to rescue some orangutans, or parachute out of a helicopter in Dubai, rest assured, that’s completely normal and even Dan Bilzerian admittedly said that his Instagram doesn’t reflect his everyday life.
Thanks to the comparison with others, we often feel like we must be the most boring person on earth.
(Or you might be suffering from some extreme adventure withdrawal symptom.)
Rest assured, that’s completely fine!
Again, feeling like being the most boring person on earth is perfectly fine and normal.
True life vs perceived life
Just three days ago, I met this gorgeous girl from Tinder. Of course, I chose my pictures wisely to show off, and to present the most like-able version of myself. Astonishingly, after meeting her in real life and rambling a bit, she told me that she’s now feeling quite insecure, as I must live such an interesting life and that her stories aren’t even close as interesting as mine. (Well, the “flipping our car over in Mongolia to remove the fueltank” truly files as awesome by all means. Btw, hi there girls!)
Thus, I had to tell her that there are lots and lots of moments, where I’m pretty much the most boring person on earth, which of course, I don’t brag about on Tinder.
Here I am, sitting in my trainers on a Sunday afternoon reflecting about life as I’m really really really bored out about revising this article. Heck, there are so many things I’d rather do now. Like hanging out with her, or chopping my way through the rainforest to sit in the Jacuzzi with some cute orangutans in Dubai. Wait, what?
Why do we get bored?
Boredom, und us getting bored, has to do with mainly 2 things, namely relative comparison, and our experience.
Relative comparison strongly affects how our brains work. When we say that someone is old, we actually say that he or she is old compared to other people in this distinctive entity. Let’s say, someone was super lazy, didn’t study for tests, failed his classes and hence had to repeat a year in high school, he is old compared to his new classmates. If the entity changes, like our lazy (but nice) friend visiting his grandma in the retirement home, he suddenly is considered young.
Checking fb in moments of boredom isn’t the smartest move. It might distract you for the glimpse of a second, but immediately you see the cool stuff other people are doing right now (or at least pretending to), and are feeling even shittier about your boring average Joe life.
Experience is another word for familiarity. Nearly anything is unfamiliar to new-borns, and thereby a new experience which tickles their brains. As time flies by, we get more and more familiar in lots of different fields, and it gets harder to impress us. The former new tasks at our first real job aren’t as exciting as they used to be, (If you’re reading this from your office chair, and actually should work on some excel sheet, just mumble some of these Buzzwords like in a mantra, and your boss will nod in agreement of what a holistic customer-centric intrinsic motivated leverage you are!), when having reached a certain level practicing guitar it isn’t as rewarding anymore as it takes longer to feel the immediate effects of gratification, and being in a relationship with the same person for many years isn’t as exciting as when you first started dating.
But like practicing to play the guitar, or working with excel can be cruelly boring, it are these boring hours you invest to achieve something great. Hence, being bored actually can be a good sign you’re up to something great.
Boredom as an achievement indicator
As you follow your goals, like me finishing this article, due to experience and repeating tasks (like practicing the guitar), the initial excitement will wear off, and it will feel like you’re not getting anywhere. At this stage, boredom isn’t a sign of stagnation, but rather a consistent steady progress.
Yes, right now your life might not feel like a rollercoaster ride full of sparkling unicorns and glitter, but as soon as you’ll reach the next milestone, dopamine will kick in and you’ll be more than lucky you bored yourself through!
Hence, it’s time to become the most boring person ever!
P.s: if you’re at the stage of getting super uber-ultra-mega-bored with what you’re doing and really are just staring at your project for hours but aren’t actually going anywhere, you can use the relative comparison to your advantage. It’s okay from time to time to force yourself to write 5 more sentences, or practice 5 more minutes, but it’s also advisable to give your willpower some break, and do something else. Famous writers, like Stephan king, work on their main project until they are tired (or plain bored), and in the mean time switch to their side projects to “refresh”.For me right now, it’s time to do some “office yoga” and stretching as alternation and relief,…just been in this chair too long :).
Remember, non familiar and new stuff = less boredom. When was the last time, you started to do something completely new?